Tuesday, April 17, 2012

A Letter to My Teen Self

Today is my birthday.

I'm trying to be excited about it, really. But all I've been thinking about is, holy crap. 10 years ago today I was officially a teenager. I had my heart broken and started going on really crappy dates and ate way too much sugar and made some of the best friends I've ever had and didn't get enough sleep and had awkward moments and so on and so forth.

Anyway, if you are into horoscopes, you probably are aware I'm an Aries. I seriously think the best way to get to know someone is through their horoscope, because mine are always pretty spot on (even if much of Aries is stubborn and impatient, psh). For example:

Anyway, I honestly think a combination of my sign and my passion is what's brought me where I am today, and I'm incredibly thankful for that.

So to bring in 23 I'm officially writing a letter to my teen self. When I was a teen, I had tons of insecurities and made a lot of mistakes. Not to say I would change anything I went through, but I would have maybe liked to have given myself these words of wisdom, if you will.

(18 year old me with pink hair. omg.)

So here we go.


You are never going to believe the places you'll end up, and I'm not going to spoil the journey. Just know that these are going to be some trying times for you. Know that you don't need guys to make you happy, and it's OKAY to say no to someone you don't want to date. Know that guys who break your heart aren't worth your tears, and you shouldn't lose sleep of gain self-doubt just because those girls came between you. You'll fall hard and fast because it's in your nature to trust and love someone who earns your respect and trust, but it's okay when it doesn't work out with those people. It's okay to be mad or hurt or upset that things didn't work out, but it's not okay to beat yourself up or tell yourself you're ugly or too angular or too gawky or stupid. Guys will
come and go, even if they seem like Mr. Right at the moment. People will tell you that you'll find someone better. Those people are right.

School is important, but it's also not the end of the world. You put so much stress on yourself over so many little grades that don't matter. If you don't need to worry about it, don't. I promise you're going to love where you end up, and you'll have earned every step of the way. But don't say no to social events or lose sleep over a grade that's, in the end, not going to be important to you. In fact, it's even okay to skip class once in a while--as long as you don't make a habit out of it.

Writing should always be important to you, and it's not something you'll grow out of. You don't have to be ashamed of it. If your friends really love you, they'll love your passion and writing as well. Don't give it up, and don't give it up because of something like homework or SATs or finals.

Don't be afraid to open up. People like you, that's why they want to hang out with you and talk to you. Get to know others. Branch out. Trust those who love you and don't hold back.

You don't need to wear a ton of makeup to cover what you believe are your imperfections. Less is better. Caking multi-colored eyeshadow on is making a statement, but don't wear it because you want to cover your true beauty.

In the end, everything will be okay with your family, so don't let that eat away your confidence or trust levels. Things do happen for a reason, and over this period you'll grow and learn to understand why. You'll learn to appreciate your family more than you ever have before.

Your sister loves you, even though you think she's an annoying little brat. Spend time with her, talk to her, laugh with her. She needs you more than she'll ever let on, and one day you're going to regret not hanging out with her as much as you could have.

Embrace your friendships. Don't get mad over trivial things. Keep the ones that matter to you close, because you're really good at pushing people away. In years to come, keep the friendships you see lasting and cherish them to bits.

The right guy will appear when you're not looking for him. Be yourself. Embrace opportunities. Have fun. Enjoy life.

Take risks. Say, when a certain band guy offers to take you on the last leg of their tour during your freshman year of college spring break. It's going to end up being one of the best trips of your life.

Finally, believe in yourself and find the confidence to do what you love. Don't listen to those who try and put you down, because you're capable of all the success in the world. Just don't bite off more than you can chew. No matter what, those who love you will always, always be proud of you.



  1. I love the sister part! I so should give my teen self the same advice.

    I actually sorta LOVE the pink hair!

    Happy birthday!

  2. This was so lovely :) I need to show this to my 17yo niece...

    Happy birthday! <3

  3. Awww this was so sweet. Happy Birthday!!! <3

  4. Happy Birthday! The letter to your teen self was so sweet! :)

  5. I love the letter to your teen self. Now if only you could find a wormhole and mail it lol.